Don’t tell me the moon is shining; show me the glint of light on broken glass."
The Long And The Short Of It
Hi, I'm Tammy, writer of an action thriller, a memoir, the occasional poem, and under the pen name, Elizabeth Hope, children's chapter books. I'm passionate about nature, and love to inspire others to live their best life.
I am at an incredible place in my life, and this causes me to wonder...if I hadn't had the life I had, would I have the life I have now? I've come to the conclusion that I am who I am because of the personal development I gained from the experiences I've gone through. And while there are some things I would never ever want to go through again, I do feel that I have learned a great deal and have developed the ability to empathize with others.
It is not my intention to focus on the negative, but sometimes you have to talk about the bad things in order to provide a reference point to show to how far you've come. And I have come such a long way, but I'll do my best and give you the long and the short of it.
I am the youngest of five and was raised as a first generation Canadian from Belgian heritage by very strict parents that were part of a non-mainstream religion. My father was an intelligent unhinged man that had an alcohol addiction and a hair-trigger temper. If you can think of some of the worst things that could possibly have happened, well, you're right, they probably did, along with other things that were unimaginable.
When I was just twenty I got married, and suffice it to say, that was an utter disaster that left me divorced at thirty, penniless, and unable to bear children. It was a very bleak and dark time in my life. And as rough as that sounds, it was the catalyst for me to make some positive changes in my life.
I started to take responsibility for my own life and stopped blaming others for the poor decisions I had made. Granted, there were definitely some things that were beyond my control, but I came to learn that I was responsible for my own actions. And I came to realize that staying in a bad situation was an action. Holding on to anger, resentment, and sadness was also an action; an internal one that just made me unhappy and gave me ill health. I made a lot of changes and did a lot of growing up. And, I am still changing and growing.
Later on, I met and married a wonderful man, went back to school, and established an amazing career. My heart is full from all the good things that has come from these last twenty-some years.
Then unfortunately, a few years ago, I was diagnosed with four auto-immune diseases, three of which are rare. My health now limits me as to the things I used to be able to do, but I have challenged myself to look for things I CAN do rather than can't.
One of the things I can do and love to do is write, which takes me to where I am now. I have completed a memoir, published a children's book, and am currently writing an action thriller. I am learning to meditate, do yoga, and I encourage inspiration and wellness wherever and whenever I can.
I'm not a person that believes in destiny or that things are meant to happen, but I do believe in giving meaning to what has happened. I believe that you can take lemons, add sweetener, and produce an awesome refreshing life. The key is that the sweetener comes from your own personal development and growth.
I said, "I am who I am because of the experiences I've gone through", but I am really so much more than that. I love nature and animals. I love to travel and learn about other cultures. I love life and embrace it with both arms. I hope that in some small way my story and the information on this site motivates and inspires you, and that you will embrace all the good things life has to offer.